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Coping: Much More Than Just "Getting By"

 Hey everyone! This week is a shorter blog than past weeks, but I'm writing about coping and how that may look, and should look, in a marriage. Coping is a natural things that comes with stressor events such as divorce, illness, loss of trust, finance loss, moving, etc;  These things can cause a whole lot of both stress and anxiety. These things can often break a family apart, but we need to keep in mind that they can also strengthen a family as well, especially if you cope the right way. 

Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy coping mecahnisms is extremely important. Some common unhealthy ways to cope could be alcohol, complaining, blaming someone or something else, burying and putting all your time towards work, and denial. Now while in a relationship, especially marriage, the most important thing you can do while coping with someone whether that's dealing with something individually or together, is to talk to each other. Talking to each other can help in a lot of ways and can especially help to grow your connection with your spouse.

Let's talk about some things you can do to strengthen your connection with your spouse. First things first, you should never go to someone else with individual problems or problems you're having in your relationship. In my opinion, it's okay to confide in a family member or close friend of the sae gender, but only after having conversations regarding the issue to your spouse. When you're having feelings of wanting separation from your spouse, is when you should stay close with them. Something else that can really help is to go on frequent and regular dates and show expressions of love. It's important to let your spouse know that you love them as well as why you love them on a daily basis. Another thing to think about is the way culture and family play a role in a marriage. It's important now to rely on your parents culture. Instead, create your own culture and figure out what works best for the both of you. Something else to think about is your routine. You should create a routine that works good for your relationship, and keep consistent in that routine. 

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