Planning a Wedding

 A little different topic this week! We're going to be talking about planning a wedding. Now I'm not married and have never planned a wedding before, so this isn't going to be a guide on what you should buy or what colors you should include in your wedding. Instead, I'm going to be a guide on what the "enagagement period" of your relationship should and will entail, as well as how to manage it, and this just happens to include planning a wedding which is the biggest part of your time being engaged. 

To start off, it takes both people in the relationship to plan a wedding. Although the woman often cares a lot more about the details than the man does, this doesn't mean that the man shouldnt give any input or opinion into what is being planned. And vise vera, the woman should be able to let the man give his opinion and share what he wants as well as what she wants. Throughout the whole planning process, each person in the relationship should often be asking each other what their preferences are. 

Planning a wedding together can show a lot about your relationship and allow room for improvements. For example, whilst planning a wedding, you learn how to problem solve better together, you have a budget that you need to agree on, as well as compromise, and a lot of other things. 

Another aspect of the process of planning a wedding is money. The average american spends $28,000 on their wedding. Where does all this money come from? You could have some saving saved up that you use, or maybe you've worked extra hard the past year to save up for your wedding. But a lot of couples get the majority of their wedding expenses from their parents, whether that's from the husbands parents or the wife's parents or both. Think about the possibly problems this could bring up. Maybe the husband's family is significantly more wealthy than the wife's family, so they contribute to the majority of the budget. For the rest of that couple's lives, that husband's parents may sort of "hold it over their heads". The couple may have trouble decided who's house they're going to visit for the holidays, who's going to meet their grandbaby first? They may feel obligated to go to the husband's parents house because of the fact that they gave more money to them for their wedding. 

All in all, planning a wedding in general is a lot of work! It's up to you to know who will be benefiicial to the process and who won't outside of yor future spouse. You and your spouse however, should always work together.